Sunday, May 25, 2008

...et encore une fois!

…and one more time! I’m back in France, and I’m so happy! The first day here my heart was so excited to be in my old grocery store where everything’s French and overpriced. Last Sunday was my first to go back to my church, Cornerstone, and I actually started crying when I saw the pastor’s wife and many other friends – I was home. I got to take the bus for the first time again, and the bus driver immediately began to joke around with me. I feel so comfortable here.

The original plan was for me to stay with my friends Gilll & Mark, as they’ve remodeled their house into a bed & breakfast, but Gill found me a great apartment, newly built, beneath the home of her friend Jackie. My next door neighbors in another apartment are Rick, an American who was in my Bible study, and his new wife Carole. My apartment has minimal furniture and a huge living room, which suits me perfectly as my art studio. Jackie took me to buy canvases from a really cheap art store (wow, they exist in Europe??), and I set up my studio on Tuesday and have been painting ever since! It’s quiet here with gorgeous views and a bus stop just down the road. Again, this was exactly what I’d had in mind way back in January when I started thinking about this trip. Amazing what happens with just a few thoughts and prayers…

Jackie was so sweet to get me a working TV, and I know my former French tutor Christele would be happy that I’m faithfully watching it. I had so much fun the first evening, seeing the same weather and news people – silly, I suppose, but again I was thrilled to be home. And then Plus Belle la Vie was on, and truly my Life is More Beautiful! It is my favorite French show, a ½ hour evening soap opera set in Marseilles. I started watching it because it had subtitles available and I could learn more useful French than by watching drama series (important words like “pregnant” and “affair”). So then I was hooked, and I was happy to see that not too much has changed. The Blonde Bombshell who was kidnapped by a Columbian drug lord who became the love of her life two years ago is now lesbian – although I haven’t figured out if it’s just to get back at her father for something or other, since he’s the Marseillian mafia boss equivalent (MBE). Of course then he goes to the Devastatingly Gorgeous Architect with the blue eyes whom the Blonde Bombshell blackmailed into marrying her (before the Columbian, if I remember correctly). The MBE dad bribes the Devastatingly Gorgeous Architect with the blue eyes to seduce the Blonde Bombshell and convert her back to heterosexuality. And I won’t bother with the Debonair Police Chief who was just framed for assault by his son’s real father in order to get back at his mother who’s now living with the Debonair Police Chief who was himself previously murdered, wanted for murder, and the savior of the town when a contagious epidemic broke out… Good stuff! Better than going down to the Festival de Cannes which has been ongoing since my arrival here. I have been watching it on the news, entertainment shows, and a favorite French talk show that broadcasts from a set right on the beach in Cannes. Most of the talk has been about the rain (it always rains during the Festival – wonder why?) and how it’s harder and harder for regular people, even the French, to gain access to the movie features and the red carpet – even the paparazzi are having to pull rank to get into parties and near the red carpet. The stars are getting bigger, and more American. Brad & Angelina, pregnant with twins (hasn’t she been pregnant with twins for 3 years?), showed up. Puff Daddy (who is now just P. Daddy) has made quite a splash and an a** of himself. He walks down the red carpet with a bodyguard, shows off his big sunglasses and equally big ego on the popular talk show, then kisses the hand of the big-time gorgeous snotty French actress who joins the show later while even his sunglasses can’t disguise the thoughts in his head. But for me it’s all good. I get to watch all this, plus a Richard Gere movie and House (yes, House has immigrated to France!) until midnight – all in the name of learning French!

So now as I type, I’m watching Toulouse lose the Rugby World Cup to Munster and the rain coming down on the lemon tree outside. The views from my apartment are so provincial, so I took a few pictures to show you (in addition to some pictures of Mark & Gill’s kids and grandkids – just because they’re so cute and make me miss my niece!). The paintings will take awhile before I’ll post those, but I’ve already gotten some gallery leads. Time to get working again, and I’m thrilled!

France

At the table, one does not age. (Italy, 11-17 May)

My friends Tim, Jon, Krys, and Randi, Poggi the Cat, and I definitely enjoyed testing out this Italian adage.  I flew from Morocco into Nice, then two days later took 5 trains into the heart of Tuscany – a little town called San Gimignano on the train line between Sienna and Florence.  Actually, San G isn’t on the train line but is about 15 minutes from the Poggibonsi station.  Those of us coming by train all had difficulty getting our tickets since Tim and Jon couldn’t decide how to spell Poggibonsi – it changed with each email we received.   Once we’d arrived, the proper spelling and pronunciation were practiced, but we finally had to name the cat Poggi (pronounced Puji) and sing songs about her in order to remember.  I’ll let the rest of the gang recall their own favorites, but mine was written for the Flinstone’s song.  Our Italian didn’t improve much beyond that. 

The wonderful villa Rosa dei Venti is about five miles out of San G in Saint Andrea.  We each had our own rooms – suites really – except Jon who was gatekeeper of the washing machine.  The first evening, the caretaker, Graciella (a beautiful name – I kept thinking of grazzi, which is thank-you, and grace when we saw her) brought us a 4-course real homemade Italian meal as a welcome.  Jon & Tim had already found the Coop (the omni-present supermarket in every town) and stocked up with wine and breakfast stuff.  [As a side note on breakfast, don’t bother.  Whatever they call bakeries in Italy really aren’t, and if the bread you buy isn’t stale, it will be by the time you get it home.  Skip breakfast and eat more pasta.]  Aside from the pizza (my favorite was pumpkin & truffle cream with mozzarella cheese) and the pasta (several favorites here, usually either including garlic, basil, fresh seafood, or truffles) and the wild boar dishes, the chianti was wonderful.  I’d never been a fan of chianti, but that’s probably due to my last bottle being cheap and I was, um, 19.  I ended up bringing 3 bottles of the chianti local to San G back to France (as if I couldn’t get a great 3 or 4 euro wine here!).

It was cloudy and cool, sometimes rainy and cold, most of the week, though the guys did take advantage of a few warm-enough afternoons to sit by the pool.  When we weren’t out on the town, Jon fixed us a few wonderful meals.  I don’t usually eat pizza and pasta – just not my thing – but even the dishes Jon made with Coop ingredients were so much better than anything in the States.  And getting an in-house chef with the price of the villa was fabulous!

Monday was a sleep-in morning, though by 11:30 they were about to bang on my door.  We spent the day in San Gimignano, a tiny little medieval town perched on a mountain boasting 7000 inhabitants.  (Did I get that right, Jon?)  It is really a tourist town now, I suppose because it is so picturesque, but fun nonetheless.   I enjoyed deciphering the wall murals inside the church which depicted most of the major Biblical stories.  The tower, something like 5 or 6 stories up, gave us the opportunity to say “I can almost see my house from here!” but gave incredible views of the village roofs and green Tuscan hills.  Then there was shopping!  I really didn’t want to shop after Morocco, but looking at all the products was fun in itself.  I also stayed amused by photographing kids and others (like a priest) eating gelato, as well as rewarding myself with a cappuccino every few hours.  My other obsession became the Italian men.  No, not in that way, exactly, but just the way they wear clothes, especially all things pink!  I saw an entire soccer (football) team wearing solid pink jerseys, as well as a cycling team!  In a high-end shop were displayed button-down shirts splashed with bright purple and pink flowers, and another with lace down the front.  They were very classy, and I told Tim he’d look great wearing them at the office.  He didn’t agree.

Tuesday was a rainy day spent in Sienna.  Jon, aside from being our chef, was also our architectural and history expert, so we were educated as to why certain buildings were famous and how to know which buildings had excellent facades and which ones were crap.  Aside from getting a really cool pair of Geox shoes (think silver Keds and multiply the price by 10), seeing the Duomo (where I bought a 500-piece puzzle of a Renaissance painting to put together when I get artists’ block), and having dinner at a small local restaurant (with incredible dishes of the now famous truffle pasta and wild boar), the highlight of Sienna was the Red Hat Man.  Jon, Tim, and I happened to see him soon after lunch – a man pulling out a squirt bottle to spray water on people’s heads so they thought they’d been given a pigeon present.  As we watched, however, his talent became evident.  He approached women of all ages and races to get a kiss, others for a bite of their gelato.  As couples looked at the menus in front of the restaurants, he would take away the menu and begin to look at it himself, or he would use a giant make-up brush to tickle the ear of the man, or attach a leash to his back-pack, or even stick a measuring stick between his legs (unbeknownst to him!) and, after getting an accurate measurement, give him a thumbs-up!  Tim and I decided we needed to be a part of the drama, not just spectators, so we walked by him, pointing up at the buildings and acting like tourists.  As we passed, I leaned over and gave him a big kiss on the cheek (although for a second as he saw me coming, I thought things might go very, very wrong).  Apparently he gave the restaurant crowd a big thumbs-up, so I did get a moment in the spotlight, then we got pictures together.  Tim, Jon, and I were so entertained that we brought Krys and Randi back to the same restaurant later in the day to watch him!  Check out the pictures…

Wednesday was basically relaxing – taking walks to look for the donkeys that the guest book insisted exist, going into San G for lunch and a bit of shopping (and Tim was the group’s sole representative to the Torture Museums), and returning later to watch the nightlife.  Since Wednesday mass isn’t too well-attended, there wasn’t much.

Thursday was Big Day in Florence.  We took the train in, then split up since we all had different agendas.  I’d been 3 days in Florence in 2001 with my brother and cousin, and although this trip was much cooler and less crowded, there wasn’t much I felt I needed to still see – except the Uffizi Museum.  Good thing  I had all day since it takes at least an hour to get in (more than 2 in the summer!) and is on par with the Prado in Madrid and the Hermitage in St. Petersburg (the tour book also includes the Louvre, but I don’t think it compares).  The museum itself certainly isn’t as big as the Hermitage or the Louvre, but like those museums, what is incredible is the amount of artwork held, not necessarily displayed since there’s not enough room.  That being said, only one floor of the Uffizi was open due to installation of a new exhibition, but it sufficed.  I spent three hours admiring the bright colours and flow of fabric, the gold and gilt, and the precision portraits of incredible Renaissance painters.  I saw Botticelli’s Venus and Spring as well as smaller paintings – I loved the round ones he did!  The room containing Reubens was closed unfortunately, as Reubens is my favorite, though I did get to see two huge (something like 30x20 feet – and gilt-framed!) paintings done by him (or at least his workshop).  Overload finally hit, and decided I would love to go to the Duomo and just sit in there for a while.  I had about 2 hours before I met the group for the train back to Poggi (“His name was Poggi, Poggi-bonsi!”).  Unfortunately, Thursday mass in Florence is well-attended and the Duomo closed at 4:30.  I thought I might be able to find another quiet church, but as I headed down the street, a good-looking guy with sunglasses started talking to me.  Why me??  I even wore my Moroccan jallaba to hide under!  Well, you guessed it, the guy recognized my jallaba and happened to be… Moroccan.  So we walked around Florence and talked about America (mostly politics) and Morocco (mostly religion).  He asked me where I got all my crazy ideas about how things get done in Morocco and what life is like there, so let me just say now that none of my observations or even statistics should be considered absolute fact.  This isn’t a Lonely Planet travel guide, but hopefully is a bit more entertaining….

Luckily the group had planned to catch the train and have dinner back in Poggi, Poggibonsi, she’s a cat from an Italian fam-i-ly!! (sorry, it’s all coming back to me now).  I was able to ditch the Moroccan without exchanging rings.

Krys and Randi left early Friday, so Jon, Tim, and I drove out to the coast to look at the beautiful green Mediterranean under a cloudy sky.  We had a wonderful fish lunch at a nice place right on the beach, then of course back to San G in the evening to see if Friday night mass is well-attended.  Definitely more activity than mid-week, but it would’ve been great anyway since it was our last evening in Tuscany.  Besides, sitting around a table in Italy prevents aging...

 

Italy

Morocco Tour Part 3: Rollie, safi!

“Safi” in Arabic means enough, or OK, or stop – derived from the French “ca suffit” (it’s sufficient).  Of all the words on my 3 pages of Arabic phrases, this was most useful.  It meant I was full, the taxi should stop, and irritating men should leave me alone, among other things.

I counted down the kilometers to Fes, about a 5 hour drive, and was finally able to ditch Driss, my over-attentive driver.  Tired and not wanting to leave my very nice hotel room, I decided though, that a little walk and search for a light dinner was in order.  Just across the street is the Fes medina (old city), with streets only wide enough for a few people.  Horses, loaded mules, carts, and motorcycles all wove through the constant pedestrian traffic.  I was surprised to find mostly Moroccans doing their day-to-day shopping, and not too many tourists.  Wearing sunglasses in the shadowed paths helped avoid unwanted eye contact or haggling by shopkeepers with a glance at their wares that spilled out onto the street.  Children, just out of school, ran through the alleys yelling out to friends; old matriarchs shopped for spices, nuts, fruit, and whatever else was needed for the next day’s lunch.  As carts and mules came through, everyone took a step into a store or flattened themselves against a wall.  Most storekeepers would cry out to attract attention.  They often began with English to me, then would switch to French.  The Arabic comments I was glad to not understand.  Daunted, I just kept walking and began to turn into quieter, narrower and darker side streets to get away.  I passed several groups of boys who began to tell me “it’s closed” as I walked by.  I ignored them but realized I hadn’t seen any women or girls for a few streets and was wondering if I was coming upon a red-light or prostitution district, or maybe some Turkish-like baths where only men were permitted.  A boy of about 10 finally got me to slow down.  He asked if I was looking for the big medina door, and I conceded that I could probably use a guide to get me out.  He spoke French well and was very sweet, telling me his name, some restaurant suggestions, asking my name, where I was from, and “non monsieur?”.  The older boys followed, trying to get me to go with them, but I stuck with this little one.   Approaching the medina door, I gave him $3, which made his day.  However, passing through, I realized it was the wrong exit and I was terribly lost!  Two hours later I returned to my room with a few cherries and a bit of bread, and pulled out the walnuts Rachid’s mother gave me in Imlil.  I was getting tired of eating alone.

Even with 12 hours of sleep I wasn’t much in the mood to venture out into Fes again the next day.  I missed Rachid – someone that I could just follow around and who’d make me feel comfortable with the Arabic swirling around me.  The hotel didn’t have a simple map of the medina, but I did still want to do a bit more shopping:  I was interested in finding a little dress I saw another tourist wearing, possibly buying a simple ring, trying for another pair of shoes, and getting henna done on my hands or feet.  Dennis & Judy had given me the number of an American artist in Fes, Jeff, and his wife Nina.  I was too overwhelmed the night before to get a calling card and figured it would be rude to call them with only one afternoon left in Fes to meet them.  John, who’d arranged my Moroccan adventures, was in an office just down the street and had invited me to come in once I made it to Fes.  John was great and gave me a medina map and train times back to Casa for the next day.  Casually mentioning that he’d heard I’m an artist, he then pointed to another guy who’d just walked in the office.  “He’s an artist as well.”  No phone card necessary!  Jeff invited me over to his house for dinner with his family that evening! 

In the medina, feeling more lighthearted, I bought some wonderful hand-tooled leather shoes for $15 in a boutique that wasn’t pushy, then saw the dress I was interested in.  “80 dh” the young tailor told me.  “50” I countered.  “70”.  “60” and I gave him a big smile.  He conceded, had to go next door to get change, then invited me into the little shop to sit with him and his older brother.  Asking me if I wanted some “Moroccan whiskey”, he left the shop for 10 minutes and returned with an extremely hot glass filled with mint leaves and tea.  Watching them sew elaborate trim on small white suits for boys to wear on special occasions to the Mosque, I was fascinated that all this was still done by hand and how quickly they worked.  I saw a beautiful ring on his finger and complimented him on it.  He pointed to his brother and said it was from him, then took it off and put it on my finger (right hand!) and said it was now a gift to me.  (Jeff later told me that Moroccan culture stipulates that a compliment on anything tangible:  jewelry, clothes, items in the house, etc, was to be given to the person making the compliment – I felt like an idiot taking from someone who had so little compared to me.)  Soon they closed up for lunch and invited me.  We’d already established, between my pathetic Arabic and their meager French, that I wasn’t married and neither was the younger one.  As we walked through the twisting little side streets to their house, he took my hand but put a finger to his lips to tell me to be quiet about it. 

After a wonderful hot lunch, the tailors were returning to the store but encouraged me to stay with the women.  Of all the days to leave my Arabic notes in the hotel!  I was introduced to the older tailor’s wife, their sister, the sister-in-law, the grandma, other relatives, and several young children, mostly girls.  They, too, quickly established my single status, and grandma said I was very pretty and would be married soon.  They pulled out the wedding album of the tailor to help establish family titles and ask about my family.  Having quite a bit of trouble pronouncing my name, “Rollie” was the best they could do.  Finally I threw my hands up and told them simply “Fatima”.  They couldn’t stop laughing!  I’m still not sure if this was because I’d renamed myself or that I was the farthest thing from Mohammed’s daughter that they’d ever encountered.  Anyway, the afternoon was filled with laughing, as well as an offer to do henna.  Needing to leave to meet Jeff and Nina for dinner, I established that I’d come to the store (I could never find the house on my own) the next morning to do henna, then they were going to prepare a special lunch of couscous for me – even if it wasn’t Friday!  Returning to the hotel that evening, I laughed.  I’d been given everything I wanted:  the dress, a ring, shoes, henna, Moroccan company, and not having to eat anymore meals alone.

I ended up sitting in the tailors’ store the following morning, watching them work and the rest of the world go by outside in the medina.  The younger was very interested in me and kept mentioning us getting married.  I laughed and finally caved in to telling him we could be engaged just for the day.  He persisted, even though I said it was ridiculous.  I told him I’m 35 and he replied that he was 23 but we were still within the accepted ages for marriage.  I thought he was so sweet so I took Jeff & Nina up on their offer to stay over (they knew I’d never escape the family by 4 to catch the train to Casa) to go out for a few hours with the young tailor.  I hadn’t been out in any city in the evenings, except little Imlil with Rachid, and I was looking forward to the escort.  So the “marriage” conversation continued with me telling him that my father would be upset if I stayed in Morocco (actually, I think I would literally kill my father with the news that I was marrying a 23-year-old Moroccan tailor) and finally asking him what we would do after we got married.  “Well, I’ll work in the store and you can stay home, cook, and maybe do your painting if you want.”  I lied and said I wasn’t a good cook, but again he wasn’t phased:  he’d eat lunch in the medina…  What about visiting America?  (I was thinking he could make big bucks in Beverly Hills hand-tailoring suits.)  He had no interest in leaving Morocco.

The couscous was fabulous as was the afternoon spent with the women watching videos of the marriages.  “Are Moroccan or American weddings more beautiful?”, my hostesses wanted to know.  Well, the obvious (and true) answer was Moroccan!  The tailor’s wife had 6 different wedding dresses and 3 different tiaras to wear for the 4-day ceremony – and this for a low-income family!  My Arabic cheat sheets had been bolstered by a few phrases Jeff gave me the night before (I wanted to be clear about my travel schedule of returning to Casa then off to France).  The older tailor’s wife did beautiful henna on my hands and feet, then they served tea and the cookies I’d brought them as a little last-minute gift.  The sister came in later in the afternoon and presented me with a beautiful jalaba (the caftans they wear) of green and white and orange.  I just couldn’t keep up with the gifts they gave me, but I think I also made their week by being there the two afternoons.  By evening, we took lots of pictures which I promised to send them.  I felt so sad saying good-bye.  The tradition is to kiss once on the left cheek and twice on the right, but more if you were really going to miss the person.  Grandma gave me four kisses.

After work and getting my luggage, my date and I grabbed a taxi to Jeff & Nina’s.  We weren’t communicating well about the evening’s plans, but I figured Jeff could do a bit of translating before we went out.  They hit it off and began a long conversation in Arabic while I phoned Dennis & Judy about my change in travel plans.  Hanging up the phone and returning to the animated conversation, Jeff stopped and looked at me before beginning to translate.  I knew immediately.  I really was engaged.

I’d done everything wrong!  While many marriages in Morocco are no longer arranged by the parents, dating isn’t customary.  Once a young couple establishes mutual interest, marriage is assumed.  By sitting in the tailor’s shop and paying attention to him, I was sending the message that we could get married – hence the conversation we’d had all morning.  Jeff also found out he had big plans for the evening.  Instead of us walking around Fes a bit, grabbing a coffee or beer and maybe a bit of food, he was going to take me to his parent’s house.  I could ask them anything I wanted:  establish his good character, that he was going to take care of me, and whatever else one discusses in these meetings.  I told Jeff, who was still interpreting all this with the superb Arabic he’d learned in only a year, that I’d already met his mother and had spent two days with his family.  Then Jeff found out that the older tailor was “like a brother” and in fact wasn’t related to him at all!  I had Jeff tell him I was Christian – no problem; he’d still marry me.  He even was going to give up smoking if that was a deciding factor.  He continued to plead his case to Jeff as if he were my father.  Meanwhile, I was stunned.

Jeff finally walked him out.  Nina and I talked about the whole situation, as women like to do, while she made me a little dinner.  I couldn’t believe that I’d been so stupid and culturally inept.  I felt terrible for the whole mess and could see that he was really upset.  Jeff took a picture of us before he left, and comparing it to the ones I took of him that morning in the shop showed how serious and disappointed he was.  Getting ready for bed, I still felt like I was in a parallel universe, that this was some weird dream, that it was a big joke.  And that night, for the first time since I’d arrived in Morocco, it rained.

 

Fes

Morocco Tour Part 2: On the Road of 1000 Kasbahs - and 1000 husbands.

My first morning in the desert, after a five-hour drive at sunset over the High Atlas Mountains the previous evening, found me at the Kasbah Ait Benhaddou.  It was the largest of the Kasbahs and one of the most well-preserved until an earthquake around 1958 crushed half of it.  The remainder, however, was quite impressive, being on a hilltop surrounded by the reddish desert mountains overlooking a river and large oasis.  This river and most others near the ancient Kasbahs are dry, even this early in the year.  The rain has been scarce recently, and the snow pack in the Atlas which feeds the rivers has become smaller.  The Kasbah Ait Benhaddou had originally been built by Berbers but was taken by force by a powerful warlord.   The movie “Gladiator” and a few others (most of you know how Hollywood-inept I am) were filmed here – in fact Morocco has a large movie industry and several studios that I saw later down the road.  Although the movie studios that filmed here at Ait Benhaddou put a lot of effort into set-building and improving the area for the movie backdrop, they took every scrap home with them – much to the chagrin of the Moroccans who would have appreciated it to bolster tourist interest.

That’s about it for the history lesson, though my driver Driss (short for Idriss, as in Moulay Idriss, the Mecca of Morocco) talked about Moroccan culture.  Like everyone else I’d met in Morocco, one of his first questions regarded my marital status.  His response, again like all the other Moroccans, was “not yet!”  It was irritating. 

We drove on an hour to Ourzazarte, and I took a quick tour of another Kasbah, again having the most fun with interesting and abstract photography.  The day’s drive would last another 3 hours, taking us past many more Kasbahs (only one had been renovated into a hotel, although there wasn’t much out there to stay for) and oases.  We did happen to come upon the Rose Festival in a small village and stopped to be a part of the fun (well, I don’t know that I really contributed, but I got lots of photos of the fun!).  All kinds of pink rose products are sold, including pink rose wreaths to wear on the head or around the neck (like a Hawaiian lei).  I wish I’d been quick enough to take a picture of a family I saw all wearing the roses, including the men!  While Driss gathered a bagful of rose stuff in one of the shops, I shot my camera at every interesting group walking by.  This is a big event here, and everyone dresses up in their finest.  The clothes represent the tribe of origin, and it seemed like the nomads had the most elaborate.  In the city center, bleachers had been set up in a circle (men on one side, women on the other), and various tribes entertained with music or plays of folklore.  I watched for a bit but was too foreign.  I enjoyed the costumes, though, and watching the kids – like excited kids anywhere when there’s a 4-day festival with ice-cream and stuffed animal toys!

Back on route, on the Road of 1000 Kasbahs as it’s known, I enjoyed being quiet and watching the desert pass by.  Most interesting were the distant mountains which had curving and wavy layers due to their formation by lava flow.  Sometimes the layers were wavy and others contrasted by being straight, but at an angle to the flat desert.  Unfortunately I couldn’t capture these well in pictures, but they were obviously similar to the lines in my paintings, so my fascination was justified.

Driss wanted to know what I was thinking, which really wasn’t much of anything as road trips and engaging scenery tend to quiet my brain.  He told me I’d quickly get old by thinking so much, so I told him I already was an old lady at heart – which is true!  Unfortunately this comment was followed by a long conversation about the status of my heart.  He asked if it was broken, and I said yes:  a little piece of my heart has been left in many places around the world.  But has it been hurt, he wanted to know.  Is it open, and if so, was there room for him in it?  And I’m thinking, why didn’t I wear a ring???  Now, being a rocket scientist doesn’t automatically mean I’m smart, contrary to popular opinion, and I demonstrated this magnificently when I tried to get Driss to drop the subject by saying “yah, maybe” and returning to watching the scenery.  “Lehamdolah!” he yelled.  “Praise God!” (or more specifically, Allah).

Now he immediately asked me if and what I believed about God, now that I was a potential wife.  So this led into an interesting discussion on Islam and Christianity, much heavier, though, on Islam.  First he gave me a new name:  Fatima.  Apparently most first-born Muslim daughters are named this, since it was Mohammed’s daughter’s name.  Most first-born sons are named… you guessed it – Mohammed.  Then Driss informed me of the five things every Muslim must do:  praying 5 times a day, giving 2.5% income, worshipping at the mosque on Fridays, observing the atonement month of Ramadan, and making pilgrimage to Mecca.  Of course, if there wasn’t enough money to make the pilgrimage, that could be waived, or a pilgrimage to Moulay Idriss would be a sufficient substitute.  We compared the Qur’an to the Bible.  Apparently I would “feel something in my heart” when I read the Qur’an and begin to have an overwhelming love for people I wouldn’t normally.  (Too bad he didn’t have one in the car.)  I told him that I already get that from the Bible.  But the Bible’s been changed!  See, the Qur’an was written by Mohammed what he heard from Allah, and no word has ever been changed.  Well, the Bible differs factually in something like 10 places between the thousands of copies found in the original Hebrew.  Plus, both the Old and New Testaments are historically and geographically accurate and most archeologists use it for reference on excavations of ancient civilizations.  I told him I’d taken a few classes with professors where I’d learned some of this, which appealed to me intellectually and solidified my faith – it wasn’t just based on “feeling”.  He told me that he knew professors of the Qur’an who could tell me things that he couldn’t explain himself and my heart would just resonate with what they say.  OK, but heck, why can’t I write a book and say it’s divine revelation from God and I am His prophet and have everyone make a pilgrimage to LA?  (Well, a lot of people already do that, so that’s not asking for much.)  I asked Driss:  if something happened out in the middle of the desert between two men, one giving his side of the story and the other not saying anything but four independent witnesses corroborating his side of the story, who would you believe?  I never really got an answer to that one, although I’m sure Driss immediately discounted it since I’m just a girl.  Most of my arguments weren’t really heard anyway, or were interrupted, so I gave up, but was happy to have avoided being hit on anymore.

My hotel for the evening was in the heart of the Gorge Todra Tinghir.  I don’t know much officially about it, like how high, etc, but it was awesome!  The river supplies a 14-km oasis, and until I was there, I never realized that an oasis looks pretty much like a rain forest.  The vegetation is very dense and tall, and the backdrop of the sheer red desert mountains is fabulous!  I hadn’t eaten lunch and wanted a little something to keep me for the 3 hours until dinner.  Only the carts near the river had anything, but really only cookies and soda at 3x the normal price.  I asked the front desk why the electricity in my room wasn’t working, since it had only a few minutes before when Driss dropped off my luggage (with a request to think tonight if there was room in my heart for him).  “Oh, the electricity will come on at 5:30” the receptionist replied.  “Meanwhile, sit down and have some tea with me!”  I just went and got my book and headed out.  I wandered down the road along the river, finally getting to the beginning of the oasis and end of the gorge.  I was looking for a quiet place to read by the river, away from the begging children and staring men, but the nicer spots had trash from everyone else who’d sat there.  Some children in the river, however, were really sweet and practiced a few greetings in French, and I tossed back my 4 or so phrases in Arabic, which made them smile.  I walked back near the hotel, passing a man selling rides on a horse and an old woman and baby wrapped in traditional garb wanting money for a picture.  Some young men were beating a tambourine and singing an upbeat spiritual song that stuck in my head for days.  I’d tired of being a tourist and taking pictures and decided to just join the mostly Moroccan tourists and relax on the opposite side of the river with my book.  I took off my shoes to cross the river, lifted my long skirt to keep from getting wet, and as I navigated the rocks, looked up to see a Moroccan woman taking a picture of me!  We smiled at each other, both understanding the irony of it.  I enjoyed watching the scene, and a little boy of about 4 years came over to see what I was reading.  “Bon jour” he ventured.  He didn’t know much more French than that, so I began digging in my backpack for my Arabic notes.  He gave me a kiss on the cheek, and I laughed.  He was adorable!  So his name is Elias, but we didn’t have much further intellectual conversation before he kissed me again.  I enjoyed his company but couldn’t help thinking that Moroccan men are trained early…

By 5:30 the electricity wasn’t on, so I took a shower as it quickly became dark.  At least I had an excuse for not putting on make-up for my big night on the hotel veranda.  I brought my book and asked for tea, which was a measly cup instead of a pot as was normally served.  The wind was kicking up, it was almost dark, and I had a headache from being so hungry.  It was the receptionist who’d brought me the tea, not the waiter, so I gave him my sob story that I hadn’t eaten since 9am and he promptly brought me out another cup of tea, a basket of bread, and a huge plate of black olives and sliced tomatoes!!  It’s nice to be able to sweet-talk my way into something good for a change. 

Most of the hotel guests were out on the dark patio now, holding their drinks so they wouldn’t blow away.  About 8pm the electricity came on to loud and appreciative shouts from all the tourists.  I headed for the restaurant, barely able to keep my skirt from blowing up and away – although the Frenchmen at the next table kindly told me not to worry about it.  Dinner was wonderful – tagine again, which I’d eat any day – and I enjoyed watching the other tourist groups and intermittently reading my book.  As I was about done, the receptionist asked me if I wanted to have tea out on the veranda, with him.  Well, OK.  (Well, OK, how stupid am I?)  I figured I’d at least get some interesting information out of this situation, since writing this blog has falsely given me the impetus of an undercover reporter.  I forgot the poor guy’s name, but he had a university degree and enjoyed learning languages.  And yet, here he was working as a receptionist in a hotel at the bottom of a gorge.  Like Judy had told me, the middle-class and poor of Morocco have a lot of faith in the current king, and he confirmed that, though he said the progress is very slow.  Anyway, I finally said I needed to get some sleep (hey, it was already 10pm!), and he told me I should really look at the stars from the 3rd floor terrace – the view is much improved by being 50 or so feet closer to them…

The next morning I received a kiss on the cheek from the receptionist and a kiss on the hand from Driss.  As we drove off, he launched into an inquisition about why I was hiding my eyes from him behind my sunglasses.  Well, the sun’s out!  Besides, keep your eyes on the road!  And we’re not even talking about my heart today – it’s not awake this early.  After a half hour I was really pissed off and told him to drop it, which he finally did.  I received a call from Dennis and Judy on Driss’ cell phone and desperately hinted that I was going crazy.  It was nice to hear from them.

We drove on, and as more boys by the side of the road showed roses and fossils for sale, as well as photo opportunities as they were dressed in traditional caftans and head wraps of shepherds, I was presented again with their desperate situation.  Most others had given up, and I saw many kids and teenagers, mostly boys, sitting at the side of the road or kicking around a ball as we passed what looked like ghost towns.  They really didn’t have anywhere to go or anything to do.   At noon, we pulled off the highway into a hotel parking lot and met the 4x4 driver for a ride out into the desert.  Although I thought I’d be returning to this hotel, Driss pulled my bag out and put it in the 4x4.  I had separated my cool-weather mountain clothes into a separate bag, and Driss said I wouldn’t need anything warm.  I was happy to be sitting in the back seat, away from Driss, though he did manage a pat on my knee and informing the 4x4 driver that I was his little “la-la”.  I’m really glad I haven’t a clue what that means.  It was a fun drive, and I loved the feeling of being out in the middle of nowhere with very few people knowing where to find me.  I guess that’s the “free spirit” in me – not necessarily good, but a fact.  In the distance I saw huge sand dunes.  After about a half-hour drive, we pulled up to a hotel, where Driss, the 4x4 driver, and I sat by the pool and had tea (although I was expecting lunch, but I was getting the impression lunch just wasn’t going to happen much on this trip).  Three good-looking young women in bikinis were in and out of the pool, and sitting with these guys, I felt very uncomfortable and decided no matter how hot, I wasn’t going swimming.  I went inside to read, but felt unwanted.  The hotel guys were chatting and smoking in the reception area, and I tried to disappear into the elaborate sofa cushions and wallpaper in one corner.  Driss found me to give me his cell, and Judy was on the line!  I was almost crying by this point.  I had earlier realized that I was scheduled to do the overnight camel trek out into the sand dunes from this hotel, but all my pairs of pants were in my other bag!  Driss had graciously offered me to wear his, and I was ready to call MedJet with some emergency medical condition to get myself helicoptered out of there.

I hadn’t particularly wanted to ride a camel, considering I’d fallen off a horse last summer, had a thrilling ride on an elephant in Thailand, and had almost been thrown off a cliff on a mule a few days ago.  But off I went in Driss’ pants into the golden sand dunes, accompanied by Mustafah and 4 other tourists.  The ride out was fun, although I realized that I’d left my camera battery in the hotel since I kept trying to recharge it in hotels that didn’t have electricity or outlets.  At sunset we dismounted, and I quickly befriended an Australian couple who’d recently moved to London.  Jody was taking lots of pictures and said she’d email them to me.  Another hour on we arrived at the tents for our overnight stay.  Mustafah and his crew had set out a table and cushions, served us tea and peanuts, and prepared a fabulous dinner.  I really enjoyed the company and conversation with the others.  They were all seeing the same sights I was but in reverse order, so they gave me some information about Fes, the final city I’d be going to the next day and which would mark the end of my tour.  The others also had interesting backgrounds:  Jody is a flight attendant and is fluent in Japanese, her husband is Persian but grew up in Italy, and the other couple, Terrance and Suko were Japanese (although he is 2nd generation from Canada).  Being able to speak in English for the first time in days was relaxing, and I also vented to them about my last three days with Driss.

We set the alarm for 5am, stumbled out of the tents, and stumbled up (some of us crawled up!) a huge sand dune to watch the sunrise.  I made it 2/3 of the way to the top and decided that was good enough.  I was alone, as two of the others had made it to the top and two were further below me.  The actual sunrise was masked by the departing rain clouds, but I still felt insignificant as the sun finally showed itself and slowly threw light on the tops of the dunes around me.  The stillness and silence were incredible.  No sounds, no movement.  My ears strained to hear anything in the silence, as it was auditory vertigo or like being surrounded by fog or water without a sense of place.  I now understand “deafening” silence.

Jody and I finally decided to jump in the pool after we returned with the camels to the hotel that morning.  I was hoping to avoid seeing Driss and the 4x4 driver, which I didn’t, but at least us girls (and Jodi’s husband!) felt unity in numbers.  I may meet up with them when they later pass through Nice, and I felt a bit validated by meeting this couple who are chronic travelers like me. 

 

Moroccan Desert Tour

Morocco Tour Part 1: Straight from the back of a donkey to an airplane.

This was the phrase repeatedly running through my head.  How did I find myself on the back of a mule in the middle of a purple and grey moonscape on a precipitous trail with switchbacks to the sky? 

Two days before, Judy and I spent a fun, if unseasonably hot, day in Marrakesh.  The train down from Casa passed near Ben Guerir, an American Air Force Base which has an emergency landing runway for the Space Shuttle.  I thought the name was interesting, as ben is “son” in Arabic and guerir means “to heal” in French.  Although never used, Northern Africa is the first land mass the Shuttle flies over after launching from Cape Canaveral. 

Marrakesh already looked different from Casa even as the train approached the city.  Casa has more sprawl while Marrakesh is bounded by beautiful new mansions set against the view of the Atlas Mountains.  After grabbing a taxi at the train station, the driver was hassled by a policeman before we could leave.  He argued his way out of whatever the cop had accused him of, and I wondered why they even try until Judy reminded me that not only do policemen get paid very little, but their superiors demand a certain amount of money from bribes, so there’s pressure to get them. 

We first went to the Bahia, a royal palace built mostly during the 1300s.  Marrakesh is the oldest imperial city and the former capital until the French united Morocco and put an end to the fighting between north and south, Arabs and Berbers.  (An interesting side note is that the Berbers, the indigenous people of Morocco, may have descended from the Jewish race, although their delicate facial structure more resembles Ethiopians, and they have begun to get more vocal against Islam.)  For those of you who insisted I buy a digital camera for this trip, you’ll be punished by the number of abstract pictures I took of the arches and ceiling mosaics in the Bahia palace.  I also took several great pictures of Moroccans from the rooftop table where Judy and I ate a tagine lunch.  This was great since many traditional Moroccans shun being photographed, and I try to not be obvious about it. 

After a 40-cent freshly made orange juice in the medina, Judy and I spent the afternoon in the market.  I was grateful Judy spoke Arabic, as much as the shopkeepers were surprised, and we were able to get a reduced rate from the usual tourist prices.  I bought a great red suede shirt and a wonderful beaded cashmere shawl – each for about $40.  We also haggled for a small black purse, one I needed to carry my passport, money, and blog notes.  It was imprinted with “Gucci, Italy” and others with D&G or Prada.  Assuming they were knock-offs, I bargained down to $8, though Judy later thought they might be real, albeit seconds, since the high-end leather factories are in Marrakesh and elsewhere in Morocco.  The market stalls brimming with varieties of nuts, dates, and other dried fruit were irresistible.  Judy mentioned that Egyptians and other Africans who visit Marrakesh are awed by the bounty.  Walking back to my hotel, we made a wide circumference around the snake charmers in the middle of the square.  We’re both extremely squeamish around snakes, and apparently they’ll throw a snake around your shoulders and ask for 50 dh to take it off!

The following morning found me in Imlil, a group of 7 villages which serves as the starting point for the two-day trek up to Toubkal, the third highest mountain in Africa (~14000 feet).  Rachid, my guide, showed me my planned 4-day trek in the Middle Atlas Mountains (excluding the summit hike, which I wasn’t prepared for).   The first day’s trek was uneventful except for lunch.  Ibraham caught up to us with a pack mule, set up a little table (tablecloth included) and chair on a Berber rug on a lookout point over the valley below.  He and Rachid spent at least half an hour making lunch while I tried to amuse myself by taking pictures.  Finally a gorgeous salad topped with cheese and tuna, rimmed by orange slices, plus a hot plate of meatballs in a fresh tomato-onion sauce, bread, and tea were served – enough for 3 people!  Later came a full plate of melon slices which I was too full to touch.  Rachid then brought out a 3-inch thick mattress, snuggled it into a rocky outcropping, and said I could take a nap.  I didn’t really need a nap but quickly realized they were going to take a nap and there was no reason to hurry in Morocco.

Rachid, in his early 20s I would guess, was quiet and spoke impeccable French and English, while Ibraham was gregarious but didn’t speak French too well.  I didn’t participate in much conversation but enjoyed the guides’ banter and even singing in Arabic.  We stayed in a modest hotel – maybe more like a hostel – where I had dinner with a Ukranian/Russian couple who now lived in San Francisco.  The next morning, however, my stomach was churning, and I asked Rachid to give me another couple hours sleep to see if I’d get better.  Finally deciding I might feel better once I got going, we hit the trail – where I got sick 15 minutes later.  Rachid offered to take me back to Imlil or alter the route since the day’s hike was quite strenuous.  “No, no – I’m fine – a bit weak but feeling better.”  I didn’t want to “be a girl” and go back.  Resting every 10 minutes or so, Rachid and Ibrahim finally let me fall asleep a bit on a rock outcropping.  I was really looking forward to the mattress at lunch!

I continued to get sick, not being able to keep any water down.  This is when they decided to put me on the mule.  I thought it might be a death wish since the trail was so narrow and mountain so steep, but I didn’t particularly care at that point.  Five minutes later, while I was in my “straight from the back of the donkey to an airplane (or at least a bed)” reverie, they pulled me off when the mule stumbled on a loose rock and almost fell backwards over the cliff.  Rachid and Ibraham resorted to pulling me by the hand up the trail that stretched on forever.  Finally Rachid told me that the peak we were ascending to was the final one and only a descent afterwards (of a few kilometers, though!) to the hostel.  Ibraham had already finished the ascent with the mule when he came bounding down the trail again.  (These guys navigate the mountains like a casual stroll through the park, and seem to do it with only a glass or two of sweet mint tea a day.)  Ibrahim was excited.  Good news!  There was a transport for me at the top!  I asked if it was a Ferrari….  obviously a delirious joke.  I thought they’d called Imlil to send a car up, but found out it was a Parisian couple in a rental car who were just curious as to where the road ended.  They drove Rachid and me down to the hotel, and after telling them they were my guardian angels, immediately got sick again.

God and I had been having conversations all day, and of course I tried to figure out why did this have to happen to me??  I’ll save the dialogue but realized I’d been a snot the day before.  I didn’t like the trail (too easy and accessible by car), didn’t like the 4-star lunch (it made me feel self-consciously snobby), felt insecure at the hostel crowded with groups (everyone already knew each other), and walking in silence with my guides for most of the day.  I decided I’d been suffering from a lack of gratitude and a grandiose self-sufficiency.  I’d been very well-taken care of and decided to appreciate it and whatever was going to happen. 

Of course my new gratitude resolve was tested the next day.  Rachid knew the taxi driver who was taking us back to Imlil (I’d conceded that the planned 7-hour trek for the day wouldn’t be in anyone’s best interest), and again I listened to them talk animatedly and sing songs in Arabic.  On the descent, the driver waved to another passing us, then pulled over.  While he talked to the other driver, Rachid and I got out and looked at the gorgeous view:  red rock mountains and evergreens surrounding the occasional rectangular buildings of a Berber village.  He pointed out the area we were scheduled to walk that day, and I felt sad.  It would have been beautiful.  Again, why did this have to happen to me??  But it was done and I had to trust it was meant to be.  We stood looking at the view for quite some time, and I finally asked about our driver who was still talking to the other.  “Oh, they’re friends and haven’t seen each other in a long time” replied Rachid.  I wondered what “a long time” meant.  Probably much shorter than my culture would consider.

Back in Imlil, there was no room in the Toubkal Kasbah, the four-star hotel that arranged my trek.  They could put me in an annex a little way down the path into Imlil and I would still take my meals at the Kasbah, but again, I was fighting my disappointment.  Rachid delivered me to the terrace for a 4-course hot lunch, of which I could only eat a few bites of each large dish.  I felt self-conscious again, eating alone amid tables full of tourists, having such superb food and accommodations while looking up at Toubkal, over at Ibraham’s little Berber village perched on the mountain opposite, and down upon women and girls reaping in the fields with the collected harvest packed on their backs. 

My pink room, however, was wonderful.  I think I was the only guest in the 3-story annex, so it was very quiet, and I had a full bathroom, which was so nice after being sick.  I opened the two big shaded windows wide to listen to the constant rushing water in the irrigation ditch outside, then changed into the warm green jallaba (provided to wear like a robe), and crawled into bed.

Rachid and I met later that afternoon for a little walk around Imlil.  On the way out, we ran into Ibraham, just returning with the mule from my shortened trek.  He invited us to his house later, and I was so excited and honored!  After the walk, I asked Rachid if we could stop back at my hotel since I had nuts, dates, and figs that I’d brought from Marrakesh for the trek but never ate.  It made me happy that I could bring gifts to Ibrahim’s family.  They laid out a wonderful Berber rug and pillows on the terrace high above the valley and under Toubkal.  Ibraham and his wife have two young children and also live with his brother who has two.  Being very shy at first, the children laughed at me trying to recite the Arabic numbers from 1 to 10.  Then I pulled out my camera and found the secret to getting pictures of children:  take one, then show them the digital picture.  Suddenly they’re so excited to pose and even take the camera to make their own documentation!  Ibraham’s wife served us soup, walnuts, bread with walnut oil, tea, and coffee – a perfect little meal for me.  Later, Rachid invited me to visit his family’s house in another village, about 10 minutes away. 

I finally asked Rachid a little about himself:  he isn’t married – not yet! (seems to be every Moroccan’s response to an unmarried person), has 4 brothers (2 in Marrakesh, one in Holland, and one with whom he lives) and one sister (married to the proprietor of a nearby restaurant where we had tea).  He attended the university in Marrakesh while living with his brothers.  Though the uni is free, the associated living costs are difficult for most Moroccans to pay, so Rachid had an advantage because of his brothers.  He began learning French in the Imlil primary school (from ages 6 to 12), then continued at the university.  As for English, he learned in the cafes by speaking with English-speaking tourists.  His job as a guide fits him well.  He does a trek for 2-8 days, then hangs out at home in Imlil for several days.  He’d just returned from two weeks with friends in Agadir, a great surfing beach on the Atlantic.  He’s climbed Toubkal many, many times – even skis down it.  He told me that you have to pack your skis on the final ascent, which is 3-4 hours, then ski down in 20 minutes!  I figured it’s best not to fall or that time would reduce to 10.  At Rachid’s house, I conversed in French with his brother’s family and practiced my Arabic with his niece.  His mother and father live in the family’s original Berber house two minutes away.  The lower levels of the old house are now used to keep the family’s livestock: sheep, cows, and a mule, but his parents still live in the top level since they’ve lived there all their lives.  Meals, however, are shared at their children’s home.  Although I’d given away all my gifts to Ibraham’s children and nephews, Rachid’s mother insisted I take a generous bag of shelled walnuts, one of the family’s means of income.

The following morning marked my last in Imlil, so Rachid and I planned a half-day trek.  He was unusually quiet and finally told me a woman from the village next to his had passed away the previous night.  He didn’t want to change the day’s plans, but as we hiked up, we met many dressed-up women on mules led by the men.  Only the women’s headscarves were black.  They were coming down from other villages for the funeral, which we could see in the distance.  I was surprised that it was held so soon after the woman’s death, but shouldn’t have been.  Word travels quickly in the villages (aided now by many who have cell phones), and burying the body right away is probably a prudent health measure.

After a 3-hour Arabic lesson during the hike up the mountain towards Toubkal, Rachid and I stopped at a gorgeous waterfall for lunch.  Eating the lunch packed by the hotel and watching some lambs come drink by the water was followed by a nap on the warm rocks, both of us being lulled asleep by the sound of the rushing water.  I think we’d have stayed all afternoon if I wasn’t on a schedule. 

Leaving Imlil with my new driver, Driss, I felt sad.  I missed Rachid and Ibraham, the quiet life they lived among their extended relatives encompassing Imlil, and the beauty and freedom of the mountains.  Realizing that my experience there came only after the plans were changed because I was sick, my heart filled with gratitude and appreciation.  Now I could see that in order to get my attention, God frequently needs to put this stubborn girl on the back of a mule in a desert with a precipitous drop to one side and switchbacks up to heaven.

 

In this vein of appreciation, I’d also like to thank two good friends who enthusiastically encouraged me to take this long, big trip:  Julie and Judy (in her memory).  I am grateful to both of you.

 

Imlil Trek in Morocco